When we read verses 2-4 of the first chapter of the Song of Solomon, we have to conclude that the woman received what she wanted from the king. She wanted to have more of him, and she received more from him. He brought her into intimacy with himself, and we will see in the remaining verses of this poem, when we get to them, what that contact involved.
Living Christianity is connected to desires of the heart. When our desires are right the Lord gives them to us. The correct desire is to want more and more of Jesus. This is what Paul wanted when he said in Philippians 3:10 that his desire was to know Christ even although he had known him for over three decades. He tells us what he wanted to know about Jesus: ‘that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.’
Something else happens too with the woman and that is that her experience of the king leads others to praise the king along with her. As her companions observe the king being good to her, they realise that they are watching grace in action. And it is a wonderful thing to see taking place on the spiritual level when Jesus draws near in great love to a person and sheds abroad his peace in that heart. Hopefully, he is doing so for us at the moment, because if he is not active in our souls, then others will not see the beauty of his grace in action. Getting what we want in this regard is not selfish. Instead it brings blessing into the lives of others.